Do you ever go ballistic at your kid’s game?
One night at my daughter’s high school basketball game, my college son noticed the over-the-top attitude by some of the spectators who were yelling at the refs and making critical comments about players. He looked at me and said, “Didn’t you used to do that, Mom?”
Cringing, I nodded. Yep. that was me a few years back.
I remember yelling so loudly at a ref at an AAU (traveling club) basketball game, that he gave me a very angry warning. Another time, I marched up to an announcer after a game and lambasted him for his biased comments during the football game.
And then there’s the time I approached a ref after the game and told him that was the worst job of refereeing I’d ever seen. I am not proud of these things. And when I see others doing it today, I realize just how ridiculous I looked.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for showing emotion at games. I still moan at mistakes and express controlled disgust at bad calls. But I’ve realized there’s just some things you cannot change about your child’s game. So what’s the point of making an idiot of yourself over them?
- Can’t change the refs’ minds.
- Can’t change the score.
- Can’t change the way the coach subs in players.
- Can’t change the mistakes players make.
- Can’t change the cheap shots.
- And you can’t change the bad attitude of the opposing team.
But you can change:
- How your child perceives you from the game — are you embarrassing him?
- How you feel about yourself when you go home later? — Maybe I shouldn’t have called the ref a blind idiot.
“Well, Mom,” my college son persisted at my daughter’s basketball game, “Why don’t you do it anymore?”
“I think maybe I’ve matured.”
I guess my kids are not the only ones who are still growing up.
Did you ever go a little ballistic at your child’s game?