5 Phrases That Put Undue Pressure on Young Athletes
No doubt about it, competition is emotional and pressure-filled, and it’s in the heat of rivalry that parents often speak words--meant to motivate--that add pressure to young athletes who are already anxious. These 5 phrases may be the honest truth, but they do not need to be said before a game. Your child most likely already understands the implications of the upcoming competition and does not need the added pressure of your words to distract him or her.
“This is a MUST win!”
You may be in the playoffs or facing a do-or-die situation, but your child already knows that it’s a “must-win” if the team is to keep playing. Wanting to win is not wrong, working hard to get the win is very rewarding, but what happens if they lose? It will not be the end of the world. It may be the end of the season, but life will go on. They will play another season, other games, and reminding them that this is a “must-win” will not help them play any better; it will only help them worry all the more about messing up. This is not the PROs or even college. It’s YOUTH sports, which means that there’s way more riding on the game than winning or losing; there’s lessons to be learned and character to be developed in young athletes.
“Watch how (insert name here) does it! You can do it too!”
Comparing your child to another athlete or sibling is not a successful motivational tactic. I’ve tried it and I know that it only makes young athletes feel worse. It is a subtle way of saying “you’re not good enough, so be like _____”. Even if that’s not your intention, there’s a good chance that’s how it will be received.
“You’re the best player out there! Go show them how it’s done!”
Your child may very well be the best player on the team. But reminding him of that may make him feel like he must live up to a certain standard. He knows you are expecting a lot from him and he assumes others are too. That mindset may work for older athletes, but for young athletes it is an unnecessary burden to bear.
“Remember what happened last game?”
Yes, I’m sure she does. Hopefully, her coach has helped her learn from her mistakes and now it’s time to move on. She does not need to be reminded of them!
“Destroy the other team!”
Parents, this is not the super bowl. And even if it was, the object of the game is to win (with integrity) and not to intentionally hurt opponents. Encouraging your child to “destroy” the other team puts the focus on the other team instead of on your child and his team’s performance. Encourage your child instead to play his best and be a team player,and hopefully the result will be a win.
How to encourage young athletes
Next time you take your child to a game and he leaves you to join his team, why not do away with any last-minute motivational phrases? A simple “I’ll see you after the game!” or “I love watching you play!” is really all the motivation young athletes need to enjoy the game.
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